Thinking About Giving Up?

by | September 29, 2016

Am I?

Sometimes you just feel like you’ve had enough. The feeling that giving up is the only option. But is it really?!

I feel as though everyone has these moments of doubt. For me, it was more than a moment, it was a very long period. I think I even became depressed for a while. It was after observing the daily routine that I had obtained that I stopped and thought to myself – ‘are you for real’?

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” – Unknown

I was simply amazed at how I’d put myself down, when after some introspection, I was definitely the only person that could pick myself up. I decided it was time to make some changes.
How did I do it?

  • Got real with myself

I had to become aware of what I was doing. It’s only after you accept that something exists, that you can change it. I had to let reality hit me in the face. file_101560_0_baby_mirror

Where was I with life? Did I hope to ‘stay winning’ sometime soon?  A crack can be fixed when it simply a hairline, but if left to itself it can ruin everything.
If you lie to yourself about any dimension of your life, an otherwise sound strategy will be compromised.




For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

  • Fixed the circle

This is so important to one’s growth. The people who you surround yourself with should be persons who support your goals and give you the continuous courage to endure. However, it is ca47213d38120094f953c0c1d633a496sometimes the persons whom we hold closest and dearest to us that bring us down and are highly envious of our trying to do the best for ourselves. These are the people that need to go. Additionally, you’ve got to respect yourself because people would only treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated.
I struggled with boundaries because I didn’t want to hurt people’s feelings, or sometimes I was bent with the desire to change the other person or make them treat me the way I wanted to be treated. I later found that this does not work. It actually just made everything worst.

“Selfishness and self-interest are two different things. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.” – Unknown

  • Took charge of it.

Life is what you make it. everybody views the world through their own lens, therefore you know and experience the world through the perceptions that you yourself create. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event.
3647c2eI had allowed my past to determine how I progressed and it hindered the enthusiasm I had for moving forward. Nonetheless I caught on quickly enough and stopped my past from directly affecting my future. A clean slate is what you need. Grip the steering wheel on your life and direct yourself to higher ground.

“A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.” Denis Waitley

  • Took pointers 

Experience can be the best teacher. It does not always have to be your own experiences but flipflops-pathyou can learn from others as well. There are so many ways to see the fruits of others labor, but you have go to grow your own tree.
Understand the concepts that they used to help themselves grow and take pointers. Don’t mimic to the ‘t’ but take pointers. It’s always good to have a trail to guide you to building your road.

  • Set mini goals

Rome wasn’t built in day. Corny but true. Everything takes time. Each stepping stone1901705_10152268175148352_49991723_nshows the universe that you’re ready for that change. That the effort is there. Habits are hard to break so it won’t all change overnight.
I remember when I used to get annoyed that I wasn’t seeing it all coming together in one big boom. I had to be realistic so I set small stepping stones, if it was purchasing a particular item to pursue something or simply having a meeting to say I tried. With this method, when I achieved my mini goal I felt more enthusiastic and had a stronger urge to continue towards the ultimate goal.

  • Slay or Nay

We all notice those persons who do not have it together. Do you want to be one of those persons? Urr no. Exactly.       0e85e21d4eea59c2b6d04bf191f7ee0a
You’ve got to choose to slay. Slay everything you do. Put your best foot forward. Don’t let situations and obstacles get you down. They’re only there to make you stronger and to make you story an even more inspiring one in the end run.

“Who says you have to be Prince Charming. Go slay your own dragon!”

  • Get your Life

Just Get cyo life! GET IT!
Once you know what you want no one should be able to stop you. Just do you! You know what’s best for you. Make sure in whatever you do that you’re comfortable with the person that you are. GO GET IT! Untitled design (6)


The only valid excuse you have to give up is if you are dead. As long as you are alive you have the choice to keep trying until you finally succeed. The chance of mastering something the first time you do it is almost non-existent. Everything takes time to learn and you will make mistakes. Learn from them. You don’t want to be known as someone that is weak and gives up. Go out there and prove yourself to the world and to yourself. You CAN and WILL achieve what you set out to do. The only time you fail is when you give up. So don’t!

Tossed by the waves but does not sink.