Dear Dr. Eden,
My Girlfriend and I have been together for 4 months, and it’s been pretty ok up to this point. Recently, I’ve been noticing that when I try to meet up with her on campus recently, she always seems to be in a hurry or busy. I know we have school work and all, but it’s been frustrating begging for the attention that I should have. Should I not get in the way of her school work, or tell her my need?
Dear Anonymous 1,
First off, campus life can be very demanding. Class work and assignments are the first order of business but love always find its way even through busy schedules. If your girlfriend can’t find time for you, well perhaps her interest in you is dying and or she has interest in someone else.
Appendix to the scenario: It too is painful for a girl to be ignored by a boy. However when a girl is slighting a boy it’s more than likely a visible sign of a lack of interest or a response to certain unmet needs if she is avoiding you, chances are she doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore. .She would further indicate her behavior that she does not wish for you to interfere with her education. Her action could also convey the message that she is not to concern about you at this time and that you might be better off moving on. It would, therefore, be wise for you to pull yourself together, do a reality check, step out of the denial and do some house cleaning in preparation for a new relationship.