The Strength of Male Tears

by | October 31, 2016

Hey Guys, Gentlemen, Bruh, Bro, Men, This is for us… Spiritual Food for your day!

2 Kings 20:1-3

In those days Hezekiah became sick and was at the point of death. And Isaiah the prophet the son of Amoz came to him and said to him, “Thus says the Lord, ‘Set your house in order, for you shall die; you shall not recover.’” Then Hezekiah turned his face to the wall and prayed to the Lord, saying, “Now, O Lord, please remember how I have walked before you in faithfulness and with a whole heart, and have done what is good in your sight.” And Hezekiah wept bitterly.man-4

“Dude! What in the world are you doing there just sitting and crying?!” “Are you some kind of sissy?” Hmmm… that seems too much like some Disney Channel script. Uhhmm, lemme see… Aha! ” Soldier, you taking all da horn from da gyal dey boy? I wudda cry mi eyes out yes.” “Dawg, I doh business jedz, I izza big man… doh cry for dem ting dey hoss!”

Should we as men cry? Is crying gender specific or too much a sign of weakness that men should never exhibit, no matter what? When is it alright for a man to cry? Guys, my brothers, when last did you cry? After reading the powerful story and concepts discussed in Richard P. Campbell’s book ” The Strength of Male Tears”, I could not but resist the strong urge to share with you, my brothers out there an encouraging spiritual nugget. Be blessed!

The focal point of our scripture hinges on the unfortunate sickness of a great man by all biblical standard. The bible says, ” In those days, Hezekiah was sick unto death.” Naturally, I want to believe that Hezekiah knew his time of death was coming. To such end, a prophet confirming to you this reality from the Lord probably dispelled any hope. Your city is under siege and you are stricken to a bed! The strong and mighty reformer is powerless, but God tells him to set his house in order. I don’t know about you, but I love to set my apartment straight. I love when the floor is clean, my clothes are neatly packed away and the fresh Maracas air permeates the four corners of my room. However, how can a man who is sick and fighting for his life set his house in order? What was God suggesting here?

The bible says “Then”.  Suitable to be used as an adverb but in this case is used as a sentence connector bridges the gap of how the incongruous and apparent bizarre request is handled. As men, we would face some situations and circumstances where we are held in subjection, where our strength is limited, where we feel powerless, but there is before you, young man a “then” solution. Hezekiah turned his face to the wall and prayed unto God. He could not move his body, but managed to direct his face to the wall. With his face toward the wall, he puts the prophet in the past, his focus changed immediately for he knew that there was a secret place where he could have let hisman-2 emotions be emptied.

Point 1- Gentlemen, our innate desire to be open and expressive may have been stifled by some childhood experience or the societal pressure of manhood, whatever it is, God wants you to know that he understands us inside out. He offers a secret place where we can dwell: Where tears or crying is not criticised and deliverance is readily available. Psalms 91:1

“Our problem is not simply a lack of tears, but a denial or abandonment of our emotional truth” ~Richard P. Campbell

“Now, O Lord, please remember how I have walked before you in faithfulness and with a whole heart, and have done what is good in your sight.” And Hezekiah wept bitterly. vs 3

Hezekiah here is having a conversation with God. The text seems to portray him filing his papers of past performances, but the last four words suggest different. He wasn’t afraid to let the tears out. For us men, accomplishments are natural ego boosters for us. We thrive on our ability to lead, provide and initiate. We often recall our Goliath dethroning feats as stimuli for approval and sustenance. However, Hezekiah was not boasting about his bright track record, he was clothed in humility and tears, perfumed with holy boldness pouring out his heart to God.

Point 2-  God does not need a reminder of what we have done, but he seeks the earnest cry of his faithful servants.

Point 3- When we allow our hearts to be softened by the tender care of Jesus and we pray withholding nothing, expect a turnaround.

God answered Hezekiah’s prayer in a matter of a short walk from Admin Building to the Business Block. He was given fifteen more years of life and was promised by God that his city would be delivered from Assyrian captivity. Moreover, his health was restored. Oh what a transformation, all from the place of surrendering his inner emotions. What has you locked up today? Is it a broken relationship? Family Issues? Financial Debt? Fear? Hey Bro, yes you! There is strength in your tears!man-1

And guys, get the book “The Strength of Male Tears”, It is going to change your life, for the BETTER! 🙂

” Tears are a unique gift to mankind, both male and female. It is not that the male reservoir is any smaller or shallower than the female. It is that men seem to prove we can resolve our emotional humps without nature’s help. So we condemn the valve, cement the hole, and embrace the constipation that poisons our softer emotions.” ~Richard P. Campbell